The sadness moment in life
It all started two years ago, at the time of the Vietnamese New Year. I never knew that meeting this person that would change my life. From the moment I met him, he changed my whole world. We began dating and falling in love several months after we met. I never thought that I would date an older man like him; a man whom is very different in personality from me. Loving him changed my life because I have found out more characteristics in me that I never knew I had. I get to experience different adventures activities and been to many events that I have never engage in before; most important of all, I never thought I would engages in a relationship that had caused a tremendous effect on me which lead to a sorrow ending.
Before I met him, I never cooked anything because my mom would cook everyday for my family to eat. I never try to cook anything because I don't get influence by anyone; no one encouraged me to cook. Not only that, I don't even know I have the talent to cook; until I met him. Since we dated, he cooked for me whenever we met for dinner. I get influence by his desires to cook when I see the excitement in his eyes. I began to watch the food network on Television and checked out the cooking book in the library. The feeling of excitement and joyous comes to me when I watched the cooking shows. It gives me enthusiasms and the desires to cook because I wanted the man I love to taste my cooking. I began to practice those methods at my house, and cook for my family. One day, I surprised him by cooking a great dinner meal. After that day, I find the excitement in cooking and feel happy that I have found the talent that I never knew I have.
Throughout the two years we've been together, I get to travel to places I never been before and experience exciting activities, which I have never engaged in or imagine that it existed. I remembered a time when we went with a group of friends to houseboat for July 4th; this was the most exciting trip I have ever had. I get to ride on the Jet Ski and swim in the lake. This experience is very exciting; however, it also brings to my attention that my problems with him arise again. As days went by, I thanked him for what he showed me in life, but the stress he gave me is greater than anything he had done for me during the times we were together.
Though falling in love for the first time in life is great, however, it had caused me the most stressful
It all started on the 5th of June 2009 at Nomaganga Primary School, a school located in Hlabisa, in a place called Mpelenyane. There was a boy there named Sizwe. He was very shy. He did not have many friends at school, and he spent most of his time alone.
Sizwe was different from the other boys at school. He did not seem to have much interest in girls, until one day, when he met a girl called Silindile. She was very beautiful and intelligent. The majority of the boys at school liked her. Sizwe introduced himself to her, but she did not have any interest in him. Like any guy would, Sizwe started doing things to try and impress Silindile. He even begged his sister to talk to Silindile for him. Silindile was good friends with Nothando, Sizwe’s sister. Nothando tried to convince Silindile to love Sizwe, but unfortunately Silindile was not interested.
Sizwe did not give up. He realised that he had to tell Silindile how he felt about her for himself. He had to stop sending his sister to talk to her on his behalf. Silindile rejected him every time. She told him that she had a boyfriend who was much better than him. Sizwe did not believe this, and one day he asked Nothando about it, but she told him that it wasn’t true. Months went by. It was very hard for Sizwe to accept that Silindile had a boyfriend, until one day when he saw her kissing a guy who was a friend of Sizwe’s cousin.
From that day onwards, Sizwe was always upset. One day, Sizwe was very angry, and decided to pick a fight with the guy who he had seen kissing Silindile. Sizwe was being controlled by his emotions. He shouted at Nothando, because she had lied to him when he had asked her about Silindile. This created tension between Sizwe and Nothando. Sizwe felt betrayed and blamed Nothando for the situation he was in.
One day after school, Sizwe went to apologize to Nothando and Silindile. He then told Silindile how he felt about her, but her answer was still “no”. Sizwe’s friend tried to convince him to look for another girl. His friend told him that there were many girls at the school who would be interested in him. Sizwe told his friend that Silindile was the only girl he wanted, and that he would do anything to get her.
A group of boys at school started to laugh at Sizwe. He became the laughing stock of the school. From that time onwards, he was always involved in many fights at school, and had many enemies. He used to play soccer with some boys after school but because of the situation he was in he decided to stop playing soccer. His behaviour changed. He was always quiet in class. During break and lunch time he wouldn’t leave the classroom. If it happened that he decided to go outside he would buy something to eat, go back to the classroom and sit there alone.
At the time, Sizwe and Silindile were both in Grade 7, the final year of primary school. The year ended and they both passed Grade 7. In 2010, the following year, they had to go to high school. Silindile registered at a local high school called Shiyinkosi High School. Sizwe decided to go to another high school, because he thought that it would be easier to forget about Silindile if he was far away from her.
Sizwe registered at Mbopha High School, a school located in the town of Hlabisa. It was one of the best schools in Hlabisa. In the year that Sizwe did his Grade 8 he was very happy to be in high school. He did very well and passed Grade 8. After all the drama he had been through in the past year it seemed that he had finally accepted that Silindile did not love him. Being far from Silindile helped him to easily forget about her, but was this true or was he just pretending?
He seemed normal and happy. Even his friends had noticed a change in his behaviour. He was doing well at school, and it seemed that everything was OK. However, if someone happened to ask him about his past he would become very angry and would even cry sometimes. It was obvious that he hadn’t moved on.
One day after school, when Sizwe was going to town, he saw Silindile and talked to her. He told her how sorry he was about everything that had happened back in primary school. He asked if they could be friends, but she turned him down again. He asked for her cell phone number but she did not give it to him. Silindile told him to stay away from her. She told him that she did not want to talk to him again.
In 2011, Sizwe did Grade 9. There was a girl called Noxolo in his class. Sizwe and this girl got along very well. They were friends, and at the time they used to sit at the same desk in class. Sizwe started to like Noxolo. He told her that he loved her, but again he was turned down. Noxolo called Sizwe’s sister to tell her what had happened. Nothando was not happy to hear this. She shouted at Sizwe, and asked him why he was always after her friends. It looked like history was repeating itself.
After this, Sizwe promised himself to never again try to tell any girl that he loved her. Was this a good decision? To him it was, because he had accepted that no girl would ever love him. This was very painful. All of his friends had girlfriends. He was the only one who didn’t have a girlfriend. He was too young to experience all of this.
One day, Sizwe took his sister’s cell phone and copied Silindile’s cell number to his phone. He also sent himself a picture of Silindile. He used to look at that picture whenever he was alone.
In 2012, when Sizwe was in Grade 10, he met a girl named Nokwanda. He started to like her, but he remembered that he had made a promise to himself that he would never ever again in his life tell a girl that he loves her. He decided to be friends with this girl. He spent most of his time with her. He trusted her, and he even told her about his past, which was something he usually never told anyone about.
Sizwe passed Grade 10 and went on to do Grade 11 in 2013. Unfortunately, things did not go well for him in Grade 11. He failed and had to repeat this grade. Silindile also failed Grade 11 in the same year.
In 2014, when Sizwe was repeating Grade 11, he became friends with another girl whose name was Nomfundo. One day, in the middle of June, Nomfundo told Sizwe that she loved him. She even wrote a letter and put it in his school bag. The letter said: “Sizwe, I meant what I said to you yesterday. I really love you. Please think about this. I want an answer from you in two days.”
The next day, Nomfundo kissed Sizwe and said to him: “I am still waiting for your answer.” Sizwe told her that he loved another girl, so he could not be in love with her. On the same day, after lunch, Sizwe saw that everyone in the class was laughing at him when he entered the classroom. He asked them why they were laughing, but no one gave him an answer.
The next day, he discovered that Nomfundo had been recording all their conservations, and that everyone in the class had been listening to these recordings. Everyone in class laughed at him every day. Sizwe promised himself to never trust any girl again.
Both Sizwe and Silindile passed Grade 11 and went on to do Grade 12 in 2015. Sizwe was so happy. In February 2015, Sizwe and Silindile started to become friends. Silindile used to call Sizwe and tell him that she was sorry for having treated him the way she did. She told him not to change, and that he should stay the way he was.
Sizwe did not understand. He asked Silindile why she was saying all these things, but she did not tell him. One day, Sizwe got a message from Silindile that said: “Please forgive me for all the bad things I said to you in the past. I was so young that I did not understand. I have now realised that you are the only boy who truly loved me. I wish I could turn back the clock, but I can’t. Please find it in your heart to forgive me. Don’t worry, one day you will find a girl who loves you.”
Sizwe did not understand any of this. He asked his sister about it, and she told him that Silindile was nine months pregnant. It was hard for Sizwe to believe it, but he finally did when he saw Silindile with his own eyes.
In March 2015, Silindile gave birth to a girl. From then on, Sizwe did not want to talk to her again, until August 2015. They started to get along again. Silindile apologized to Sizwe for all the pain he had gone through because of her. Sizwe forgave her and told her that he still loved her. Silindile told him that she also loved him, and that she wouldn’t allow anything to come between them. From that moment onwards they were both happy, and always spent their weekends together. However, their relationship did not last for long. Sizwe decided to end their relationship, because he found out that Silindile had not broken up with the father of her child.
This time, Sizwe vowed he would never again, love or trust another girl.
Tell us what you think: Do you think people who love like Sizwe still exist? Or do people just move on to the next love?
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